I used to be a feminist who fought for women’s rights. One of those battles involved challenging insurance companies who would not pay for birth control pills even though they paid for abortions. I won the battle and got on my birth contol pills and patches. Later in life, I had a womb full of fibroids, PCOS, HPV, and I was the woman with the issue of blood.
The doctors who put me on the birth control had no viable solutions for my maladies. I did some research and discovered my woes were caused by the birth control I fought for, sex with energetic vampires, and my dietary choices. Ain’t karma a bitch? When you fight for the system, you get system-filled diseases.
Thank goodness for the blood of African and Native American healers flowing through my veins. I knew that going to Source would solve my problems. I was healed by the energetic power of Source flowing through a spirit filled woman, dietary changes, castor oil, and herbs. I no longer prescribe to labels that weren’t meant for me in the first place. I participated in a system that made me sick and was healed by the energy and plants of Source. That’s why I’m not a feminist. I’m a healer.
Many of us grew up hearing all kinds of information about what we should and shouldn’t do on our moon cycles. Just like any transference of knowledge, we received some solid advice AND some wrong information. I asked my Facebook friends to post what they were told as a child when they were learning to take care of themselves during their moon cycle. Here’s a compilation of the information they shared.
- Don’t tell anyone you’re on your cycle. (Not sure what the logic was behind this one)
- Don’t take a bath because menstrual blood is unclean and you don’t want to soak in it.
- Don’t take a bath or the blood won’t come out and it will pollute your body.
- Don’t eat pineapples, citrus, or tomatoes because they’re all too acidic during this time of the month.
- Don’t walk barefoot or wash your hair because you’ll get a cold in your womb.
- Don’t use a tampon if you’re a virgin because you’ll loose your virginity.
- Don’t cook anything because you will contaminate the food.
- Don’t go swimming, especially in the ocean.
- Don’t hold a baby. (I never did get a clear explanation for this one)
- Don’t ever have sex during that time of the month.
My favorite item on the list is #7, don’t cook anything because you’ll contaminate the food. We all know the story of some man being “whipped” by a woman who put her menstural blood in the spaghetti, right? Of course, I researched the origin and found out that in ancient times, menstural blood was revered and folks perceived it possessed a magical quality. For this reason, women would collect the blood and feed their crops with it. In fact, some would even put it in their food and this was actually a welcomed experience. It wasn’t until the witch trails and like events that demonized anything woman that these practices became taboo. Isn’t it interesting how time and the presiding rule of the culture changes everything.
On another note, I’d love to hear what you were told or what you think about this list so feel free to add a comment. I’d also love to hear if you followed these things and if so, how that worked out for you. I look forward to hearing your funny stories and your truths.
Love and light.
Do you remember your first moon? Maybe it was all you thought it would be or maybe it a nightmare. No matter what the experience may have been, I’m willing to bet that most of you didn’t have a celebration or any training (outside of etiquette classes or a debutante ball, etc.) related to it. In our culture, we celebrate birthdays, holidays, anniversaries, and events of that nature, but rarely do we celebrate first moons.
Since I am the mother of three boys, I’ve discussed their coming of age celebrations with their father, yet I felt it was important for my nieces and cousins to have first moon celebrations. In fact, I’ve already started planning. I was surfing the web when I happened upon the party favors in the picture above. These awesome favors are sold by Menarche Parties R Us. In addition to favors, they sell educational games to play at first moon celebrations and a few other products. While I found this site to be refreshing, I wondered how my niece’s/cousin’s girlfriends and their mothers would handle receiving this invitation in the mail. Hmmmmm. The fact that I had to even ponder on this question let me know that we have some work to do in our society.
So, where do we start? I’d like to pose that idea that we consider building traditions in our families that help us get to the point where receiving an invitation like the one above in the mail is common place and something we look forward to. Before we can do this, we have to educate ourselves and other elders who are raising the next generation of wonderful women. Here are a few resources to help us start. I’d love to hear your thoughts and experiences. Love and light.